After 12 years together, the showbiz world was in shock of Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt’s split. Citing irreconcilable differences Angelina Jolie has filed for divorce from husband Brad Pitt. The pair separated on September 15, after 2 years and 1 month of being married. We seem to talk a lot about how marriage is hard work and how much our culture changes. When couples get divorced we just shake our heads, if they’d worked harder or gone to counseling or therapy they could’ve saved it.
Couples going to therapy does not mean that their relationship was heading into a spiral. Going to couples therapy before both of you get into crisis mode can strengthen your relationship tremendously and can possibly help avoid future conflicts. Sometimes, the issue of healing a marriage is difficult because most couples undergo therapy or counseling too late in the relationship that a lot of serious damage has already been done. When a spouse is holding it for years, having a doubt, until one fateful day the truth comes out. One or both of them can’t stand the sight of each other. Most probably your marriage will end up just like Jolie and Pitt.
It is very important to decide on a therapist who has practice working with couples and who is a good fit for a couple. This can negatively impact development, or one person may prematurely quit if both partners don’t feel happy with the therapist. After all, relationships last long not because they’re destined to last long. The relationship last long because two brave people made a choice to keep it, fight for it, and work for it. They continue to care, continue to share, and continue to compromise.